Great 1st Dates then…Nothing?

I know what you’re thinking…

“Online dating sucks!!”

You sorted through the obvious losers before FINALLY seeing someone worthy. Behold! You mutually swiped right and had a few conversations with someone who looked promising. You met for coffee or maybe even dinner (which is rare for a first meeting) and it felt like you two hit it off.

You asked a lot of exploratory questions to find common ground. You told him/her all about the experiences and hardships that made you the amazing, evolved person you are today so they’d know you are truly a good person.

They were a great listener and it seemed like you really connected well! You even laughed at the same jokes, drank your coffee the same way and both of you lined up your napkins and stir sticks so they were neat and properly squared off to the edges of the table.

In other words, it seems like there was potential! You started daydreaming about how much fun you two will have together and you hope to hear from him soon so you can plan a real date.

Or, if you are a guy, you were fantasizing about that first romantic sexy kiss before you even got back to your car. You texted her to thank her for meeting you and that you can’t wait to see her again soon.

Then….. nothing. Crickets. You’ve been ghosted.

Seem all too familiar? Well, before you give up or start thinking that all the good ones are taken and only jerks and losers are online, looking to break hearts and play games…. think again.

Do you see a pattern of behavior that might indicate that maybe (just maybe) it’s your own behavior that drives them away? Because, if you really, truly, from the bottom of your heart want a deep, loving, sexy, affectionate relationship but it’s just not happening – you are going to want to read my article:

Why People Run Away From You

I’m going to warn you though…. it’s going to make you feel uncomfortable if you recognize yourself in any of these descriptions of behaviors that turn people off. In fact, most Narcissists or people with Borderline Personality Disorder will be in complete denial that any of the described behaviors have anything to do with them.

There’s an old saying, “If the shoe fits, wear it!” In fact, if you find yourself feeling defensive about any of these descriptions, that’s an indication that you’ve touched on something painful that leads to something deeper and that is EXACTLY what you need to focus on in order to let the healing begin and stop acting like THAT.

Or, you may say you want a serious relationship but if you keep getting rejected or can’t find anyone “good enough” then the problem may very well be that you are subconsciously self-sabotaging what you say you want because, in your heart, you are scared of true intimacy or feel like you aren’t good enough or are afraid of getting your heart broken again, or any number of hundreds of things that cause people to put walls up to protect themselves.

Tired of getting rejected? Frustrated with dating? I can help.

With over 28 years of research and experience and almost a decade as a sex, dating, and relationship educator/coach I have helped thousands of men, women, and couples transform their relationships from “meh” to “Marvelous!!” in both the bedroom and boardroom.

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